Attracting Women: Older Women v.s. Younger Women
November 22, 2009
Dan Bacon asked:
Many men agree that attracting women who are older (28+) is easier because women at that age tend to allow your personality to shine more so than younger women (18-27).
The argument usually centers around younger women being too ‘flighty’ and less interested in being serious for too long in an interaction.
Those suggestions are partly true.
Generally speaking and compared to older women, younger women don’t have as much experience with sexual courtships and the ins and outs of dating, love and relationships.
To a younger woman, being all giggly and energetic may be her best way of socializing, connecting with you and expressing her happiness with you in a situation.
If you can’t ‘vibe’ with her on that sort of level, then she might see you as ‘weird’ or ‘boring’.
Additionally, a younger woman might thoroughly enjoy watching movies where Hollywood stars demonstrate passionate and interesting sexual courtships, but will be clueless as to how to make it happen for herself in real-life.
This inexperience on the younger woman’s part might leave you thinking that she isn’t interested or doesn’t like you, or that attracting women of that age is too hard. However, it is more likely that you are incorrectly reading her signals, or lack thereof.
Generally speaking, an older woman will have had more experience with dating and be able to give you more obvious and effective signals of interest so attracting women of that age will seem easier.
An older woman might also express her happiness with you in a situation by using more ‘interested’ facial expressions, body language and tonality and involving herself in longer and more meaningful conversations with you.
Now, I’ve been using the words ‘generally speaking’ because, as you may have experienced, some younger women are very mature, sexually and socially.
One of my girlfriends from last year was 21 years old (I’m 29). She understood things about dating and sex that you’d expect from someone much, much older.
When we first met, our conversations and interactions, while flirty and fun, were also deep and mature.
If you aren’t attracting women between the age of 18-27 and then moving it towards the point of having a younger girlfriend, then you may simply be going about it in the wrong way.
Here’s an example…
I was coaching a client in Sydney a couple of weekends back. As we vibed with two younger women in a popular city bar, there was an old, black & white cartoon playing in the background.
The two younger women were very energetic and giggly, so I geared the conversation towards the cartoon, cartoons in general and the funny things that cartoon characters do, for about one or two minutes.
We all had a good laugh. We then we talked about some ‘normal stuff’ relating to the bar we were in, for a minute or two, and then went back to talking about some other ‘fun stuff.’
I lead the women through a conversation that had emotional variance, in a way that they could relate and contribute to. Afterwards, my client commented with amazement on how the two women just naturally took to me.
Here’s the thing though: Regardless of how skilled I am at meeting and attracting women, the interaction would not have gone so well if I had tried to interact with the two younger women by focusing on ‘normal, boring stuff’ and then expecting them to want to stay there and experience that sort of vibe.
They had a different energy level and way of interacting, so I adapted to the situation.
If you want to beging successfully attracting women of all ages, then you are going to need to learn how to be flexible with the various personality types you meet.
A quick disclaimer: I’m not saying that you should not be yourself, or that you should pretend to be interested in talking about cartoons.
Hell, one of my favourite subjects second to dating advice is transhumanism, but talking about the mind-blowing possibilities of science just doesn’t seem to enthrall 99% of women in bar environments!
…especially younger women. So, I adapt in order to be effective…and it works every time.
Note: Once you begin dating, you’ll be surprised at how interested women will be in who you are, what you know, what you like talking about and where you’re going with your life.
However, before you even get to that enjoyable place, you’re going to need to learn how to adapt and explore interactions and conversations based on the unique individuals you meet.
I can’t remember who said this, but I think it’s an awesome take on calibrating to the situation. I think it might have been Samuel L. Jackson on some TV show when they interviewed him.
Anyway, the ‘guy’ said: “The epitome of cool, is being able to walk into a room full of strangers and get along with everyone on their level, while still being yourself.”
Now get out there and start attracting women!
Date a Maturte Woman or Cougar at Granny Dating UK
Many men agree that attracting women who are older (28+) is easier because women at that age tend to allow your personality to shine more so than younger women (18-27).
The argument usually centers around younger women being too ‘flighty’ and less interested in being serious for too long in an interaction.
Those suggestions are partly true.
Generally speaking and compared to older women, younger women don’t have as much experience with sexual courtships and the ins and outs of dating, love and relationships.
To a younger woman, being all giggly and energetic may be her best way of socializing, connecting with you and expressing her happiness with you in a situation.
If you can’t ‘vibe’ with her on that sort of level, then she might see you as ‘weird’ or ‘boring’.
Additionally, a younger woman might thoroughly enjoy watching movies where Hollywood stars demonstrate passionate and interesting sexual courtships, but will be clueless as to how to make it happen for herself in real-life.
This inexperience on the younger woman’s part might leave you thinking that she isn’t interested or doesn’t like you, or that attracting women of that age is too hard. However, it is more likely that you are incorrectly reading her signals, or lack thereof.
Generally speaking, an older woman will have had more experience with dating and be able to give you more obvious and effective signals of interest so attracting women of that age will seem easier.
An older woman might also express her happiness with you in a situation by using more ‘interested’ facial expressions, body language and tonality and involving herself in longer and more meaningful conversations with you.
Now, I’ve been using the words ‘generally speaking’ because, as you may have experienced, some younger women are very mature, sexually and socially.
One of my girlfriends from last year was 21 years old (I’m 29). She understood things about dating and sex that you’d expect from someone much, much older.
When we first met, our conversations and interactions, while flirty and fun, were also deep and mature.
If you aren’t attracting women between the age of 18-27 and then moving it towards the point of having a younger girlfriend, then you may simply be going about it in the wrong way.
Here’s an example…
I was coaching a client in Sydney a couple of weekends back. As we vibed with two younger women in a popular city bar, there was an old, black & white cartoon playing in the background.
The two younger women were very energetic and giggly, so I geared the conversation towards the cartoon, cartoons in general and the funny things that cartoon characters do, for about one or two minutes.
We all had a good laugh. We then we talked about some ‘normal stuff’ relating to the bar we were in, for a minute or two, and then went back to talking about some other ‘fun stuff.’
I lead the women through a conversation that had emotional variance, in a way that they could relate and contribute to. Afterwards, my client commented with amazement on how the two women just naturally took to me.
Here’s the thing though: Regardless of how skilled I am at meeting and attracting women, the interaction would not have gone so well if I had tried to interact with the two younger women by focusing on ‘normal, boring stuff’ and then expecting them to want to stay there and experience that sort of vibe.
They had a different energy level and way of interacting, so I adapted to the situation.
If you want to beging successfully attracting women of all ages, then you are going to need to learn how to be flexible with the various personality types you meet.
A quick disclaimer: I’m not saying that you should not be yourself, or that you should pretend to be interested in talking about cartoons.
Hell, one of my favourite subjects second to dating advice is transhumanism, but talking about the mind-blowing possibilities of science just doesn’t seem to enthrall 99% of women in bar environments!
…especially younger women. So, I adapt in order to be effective…and it works every time.
Note: Once you begin dating, you’ll be surprised at how interested women will be in who you are, what you know, what you like talking about and where you’re going with your life.
However, before you even get to that enjoyable place, you’re going to need to learn how to adapt and explore interactions and conversations based on the unique individuals you meet.
I can’t remember who said this, but I think it’s an awesome take on calibrating to the situation. I think it might have been Samuel L. Jackson on some TV show when they interviewed him.
Anyway, the ‘guy’ said: “The epitome of cool, is being able to walk into a room full of strangers and get along with everyone on their level, while still being yourself.”
Now get out there and start attracting women!
Date a Maturte Woman or Cougar at Granny Dating UK